Discipline is the ability to control behavior. Parents might discipline their children to behave a certain way. Self-discipline is the ability to control your own behavior. Teachers know students with discipline usually get good grades, bosses know their disciplined employee will do good work.
The word discipline means to impart knowledge and skill — to teach. However, it is often equated with punishment and control. There is a great deal of controversy about the appropriate ways to discipline children, and parents are often confused about effective ways to set limits and instill self-control in their child. In medical and secular literature, there is great diversity of opinion about the short-term and long-term effects of various disciplinary methods, especially the use of disciplinary spanking. This statement reviews the issues concerning childhood discipline and offers practical guidelines for physicians to use in counselling parents about effective discipline. The Canadian Paediatric Society recommends that physicians take an anticipatory approach to discipline, including asking questions about techniques used in the home. Physicians should actively counsel parents about discipline and should strongly discourage the use of spanking.
The human aspect of teaching means that teachers will have different thresholds for student behavior, different buttons that get pushed. But it can lead to all kinds of misunderstandings in schools. When that happens, many of the issues that get kids into trouble can be avoided. When we are intentional about our expectations and, perhaps more importantly, about the systems and structures we put in place to build a healthy culture — and then when we base our actions around that intentionality, we create the conditions in which students can thrive. By being disciplined in our actions, we get to spend a great deal less time on disciplining the kids.
No one can make you angry without your permission. The moment is as it is. Becoming conscious of hurtful patterns and the willingness to change those patterns is the greatest gift we can give children.