Breath play refers to the BDSM practice of having your breathing restricted during sexual activity. It is one of the riskiest acts when it comes to kinky sex Not only is it potentially fatal, but the risk of injury is so alarmingly high if not done under the best scenarios—and with an extremely experienced partner who prioritizes safety with the utmost importance—that tbh, the pleasure rewards are not worth it. Breath play is so controversial, in fact, that many in the kink community don't think it should be taught or engaged in at all, explains Carol Queen , PhD, resident sexologist at Good Vibrations. Do not attempt if you are not a consenting, seasoned professional!
Breath Play Is a Popular Form of BDSM. Here's How to Do It Safely.
Breath Play: A guide to Erotic Asphyxiation – Je Joue
Breath-play involves the restriction of oxygen to increase erotic play or to intensify an orgasm or sexual experience. This can either be achieved through solo-play autoerotic asphyxiation or through partner play, in which the submissive is the one who's airflow is restricted. There are a variety of ways in which people accomplish this: breath-holding, nose-pinching, Kinging or Queening smothering the face of a partner with the genitals of the other , gas-masks or hoods usually latex gimp or slave hoods , bags or plastic wrap, re-breather bladders, choking or hanging, compression on chest corseting , pressure on the trachea or around the neck or pressure on the carotid artery. Self-induced autoerotic asphyxiation can be accomplished in many of the same ways with variations that don't require a partner. Also, there are new types of breath-play that involve breath control in which one partner is directed to become more conscious of their own breathing in a manner that simulates classic breath-play, relying on the psychological impact of hyperventilation or self-controlled breath restriction. Each type of breath-play tends toward a different kink in each partner — some are obviously more dangerous. This would not be something I myself would ever indulge in, because quite frankly, it's dangerous.
What Is Breath Play and Why Is It So Dangerous?
Sign up for our newsletters Subscribe. Q: In a frank exchange early in our courtship, I told my girlfriend that I have no kinks. As a faithful reader of Savage Love, I'm obviously not opposed to kinks—but I've never had any inclinations in that direction and am probably a typical hetero vanilla. As a result, I'm damn near clueless in that area. Last night, my girlfriend placed my hands around her neck and asked me to choke her.
In the heat of the moment, your partner places their hand around your throat and provides a gentle squeeze to the sides. You feel the tingling of an instant rush to the head, all senses heightened, all pleasure magnified as you fall into an other-worldly state of bliss. Gently, your partner releases and you feel the welcomed oxygen spread throughout your entire body as you return back into yourself and the moment — racing endorphins completely engulfing you. I myself have become a fan of choking during intimacy but have to admit that I was very skeptical of exploring that side of my desires due to a combination of misinformation and fear-based education.